If you’re considering family mediation, choosing the right mediator is an important first step. Every family is different, and finding a mediator who is professionally trained and whose approach feels right for you can help you feel more confident as you begin the process.

Family mediation offers a constructive way for people to discuss issues arising from separation or divorce, including arrangements for children, finances and property. Rather than making decisions on your behalf, a family mediator helps those taking part in mediation have productive conversations, explore options and consider proposals that may work for everyone involved.

Check for Membership of the Family Mediation Council

One of the first things to consider is whether the mediator is professionally trained and is a member of the Family Mediation Council (FMC).

This means the mediator is required to adhere to the FMC’s professional standards and Code of Practice. Members may be fully accredited or Working Towards Accreditation (WTA), giving you reassurance that they are committed to maintaining high professional standards and continuing their professional development.

Where Can You Find a Family Mediator?

There are several ways to find a family mediator, including:

• Personal recommendations from friends or family members.
• Referrals from solicitors or other family professionals.
• The FMA’s Find a Mediator directory.
• The Family Mediation Council’s Find a Mediator directory.

Taking a little time to explore your options can help you find a mediator who best suits your circumstances.

Finding the Right Mediator for You

Finding the right mediator can be quite a personal decision.

Every mediator has their own style and approach, and many are happy to offer a short introductory conversation before mediation begins. This gives you an opportunity to ask questions, understand how they work and decide whether you feel comfortable working with them.

Feeling listened to and supported can help create a positive environment for productive discussions throughout the mediation process.

Understand the Costs

For many families, mediation is a more cost-effective way of resolving issues than court proceedings. Different mediators may have different charging structures, so it’s worth asking about fees before you begin.

You may wish to ask about:

• The cost of a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM).
• Session fees.
• The preparation of any documents.
• Whether there are any additional charges.

You should also ask whether you may be eligible for Legal Aid or the Government’s Mediation Voucher Scheme, which can help towards the cost of mediation for some families.

Consider Availability

If you’re keen to begin mediation, it’s worth asking about a mediator’s availability.

Some questions you may wish to ask include:

• How soon can appointments be offered?
• Are online as well as face-to-face sessions available?
• Are evening appointments offered?
• Is there flexibility if your circumstances change?

Finding a mediator whose availability works for you can help the process move forward more smoothly.

Taking the First Step

Choosing a family mediator is an important decision, but it doesn’t need to feel overwhelming. By taking time to explore your options, ask questions and find a mediator whose approach feels right for you, you’ll be well placed to begin the mediation process with confidence.

Family mediation is about helping people have better conversations, explore possible solutions and move forward constructively. Even where every issue isn’t resolved immediately, mediation can help improve communication, narrow the matters in dispute and support families as they plan for the future.